Conflicts are a part of family life. Many issues can lead to conflict, such as marital problems, addition, generation gap, disability and so on. If the parents do not manage these conflicts properly, it will cause bad effects on the children. This is because the children are living in a unhealthy family and it may lead to the social problems indirectly. As we know, parents are busy for their business and will be 'pass' their children to the grandparents to take care since the children are baby,kindegarden and adolescence. So,they are lack of communication between their own parents, even grandparents. Besides this, sometimes grandparents are unable to teach their grandchildren when ask them a questions which about their study. In long run, they do not have good opportunities to find a job due to shortage of education since their parents are do not spend much of time to teach them.
Secondly, On the other hand, children like to try something new to get the attention from others because they are less communication with others. They are pretend themselves and not dare to talk with others, scare get hurt and no one is bother them when they talk. So, they are willing to do something 'special' to get the attention from others. They will be get into drug addition, become a gangster, smoking,go to the pub, etc. They won't think about the effect which will happen on them when they are involve in these 'activities'. They never know that their parents are worry about them and they are enjoyed of it. Furthermore, once they have the negative thinking, they will be try something more extreme, such as stealing, 'mat rempit', committed to buy drugs with their friends those who have the negative thinking.
Once they are involved, they can not detached easily. This is why nowadays the rates of juvenile crimes become increased in this society. Actually parents are play an important role of it. According to the newspaper wrote that,“A child is less likely to commit crime if there is someone, usually a parent, who makes a difference in his life.' Children are potential leaders in our future. Government hopes the young generation to innovate and advance the country in future. But, due to the social problems, its seems like hard to achieve it.
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Friday, October 8, 2010
NeWs For The Solution of Pregnant Teenagers
CM: School for pregnant teenagers will proceed
MALACCA: Chief Minister Datuk Seri Mohd Ali Rustam yesterday defended his suggestion for pregnant teens be placed in a special school.
Replying to a question raised in the state assembly sitting, he said the state government was serious about helping pregnant youngsters.
The state government was determined to set up such school, he said adding that Pantai Kundor assemblyman Datuk Ab Rahaman Ab Karim had been appointed chairman of the school with immediate effect.
Ali, however, did not elaborate on the school, saying that details were being worked out.
He said the school would be set up as soon as possible despite criticisms.
"I am not suggesting it merely for fun but it is based on the views of many quarters obtained during a recent seminar on social problems held here."
Believing that there were no outright solutions to the problems, Ali said the move could assist the teenagers in one way or another.
"The school will take care of the needs of pregnant teens and this, indirectly, will rid of negative perception against them," he said to a question by Chua Kheng Hwa (BN-Bemban).
Ali added that there was no harm in having such a school.
"It is done with good intention and I believe this is encouraged not only by Islam but also other religions to address social problems involving our youngsters."
The Malacca Religious Council (MAIM) had also given its thumbs-up for the establishment of the school.
"This was agreed upon during a meeting between MAIM leaders and representatives of several political bodies and non-governmental organisations in the state."
Statistics showed that rape cases in the state stood at 112 last year and 40 cases were reported in the first six months of this year.
On baby dumping cases, Ali said only one case was reported last year while three had been reported so far this year.
"This is very worrying. They are scared to tell their parents for fear of being scolded and ostracised. In the end, they give births in secluded spots and dispose of their newborns. We must put a stop to it and this is the very reason why we want to have the school."
The proposal, however, did not go down well with the Women, Family and Community Development Ministry.
In a statement, the ministry said the move was not the best solution to address the issue of baby dumping.
Instead, a more practical solution would be to allow pregnant teenagers to defer their schooling and make arrangements for them to be placed at a new school after maternity leave.
It also said segregation of teenagers from mainstream education would result in social stigma towards them.
"Moreover, the school will always be labelled by society as an institution for teenagers who are pregnant out of wedlock," the statement said.
Although the proposal was seen as a preventive measure to the problem of abandoned babies, it should be studied comprehensively to avoid other implications which may affect the children, families and the society.
It added that the proposal to encourage children and teenagers to marry with the support of the state government would be seen as condoning child marriages.
"The ministry is firm on its stand that child marriages should not be encouraged as they are detrimental to the development and well-being of the child."
It added placing a heavy burden of parenthood on children would also affect the child's psychological, emotional and physical development.
MALACCA: Chief Minister Datuk Seri Mohd Ali Rustam yesterday defended his suggestion for pregnant teens be placed in a special school.
Replying to a question raised in the state assembly sitting, he said the state government was serious about helping pregnant youngsters.
The state government was determined to set up such school, he said adding that Pantai Kundor assemblyman Datuk Ab Rahaman Ab Karim had been appointed chairman of the school with immediate effect.
Ali, however, did not elaborate on the school, saying that details were being worked out.
He said the school would be set up as soon as possible despite criticisms.
"I am not suggesting it merely for fun but it is based on the views of many quarters obtained during a recent seminar on social problems held here."
Believing that there were no outright solutions to the problems, Ali said the move could assist the teenagers in one way or another.
"The school will take care of the needs of pregnant teens and this, indirectly, will rid of negative perception against them," he said to a question by Chua Kheng Hwa (BN-Bemban).
Ali added that there was no harm in having such a school.
"It is done with good intention and I believe this is encouraged not only by Islam but also other religions to address social problems involving our youngsters."
The Malacca Religious Council (MAIM) had also given its thumbs-up for the establishment of the school.
"This was agreed upon during a meeting between MAIM leaders and representatives of several political bodies and non-governmental organisations in the state."
Statistics showed that rape cases in the state stood at 112 last year and 40 cases were reported in the first six months of this year.
On baby dumping cases, Ali said only one case was reported last year while three had been reported so far this year.
"This is very worrying. They are scared to tell their parents for fear of being scolded and ostracised. In the end, they give births in secluded spots and dispose of their newborns. We must put a stop to it and this is the very reason why we want to have the school."
The proposal, however, did not go down well with the Women, Family and Community Development Ministry.
In a statement, the ministry said the move was not the best solution to address the issue of baby dumping.
Instead, a more practical solution would be to allow pregnant teenagers to defer their schooling and make arrangements for them to be placed at a new school after maternity leave.
It also said segregation of teenagers from mainstream education would result in social stigma towards them.
"Moreover, the school will always be labelled by society as an institution for teenagers who are pregnant out of wedlock," the statement said.
Although the proposal was seen as a preventive measure to the problem of abandoned babies, it should be studied comprehensively to avoid other implications which may affect the children, families and the society.
It added that the proposal to encourage children and teenagers to marry with the support of the state government would be seen as condoning child marriages.
"The ministry is firm on its stand that child marriages should not be encouraged as they are detrimental to the development and well-being of the child."
It added placing a heavy burden of parenthood on children would also affect the child's psychological, emotional and physical development.
Monday, October 4, 2010
ThE sOLutions of the Family problem
Nowadays, by browsing through the newspaper, we can see that there are many family issues are reported. For example, abortion babies, under age pregnancy, run away from home and the like. These kind of family issues fundamentally due to the poor relationship among family members. This is because lack of communication between parents and their children although living under the same roof. This is called 'generation gap'.
Therefore, there are some of the solutions to overcome the family problems. One of the solution is family meeting. Family meeting provide a safe environment for each member to share n express their views regarding the various issues. Through out this meeting, family members can tell and know what is the problem are they facing and will try to help them to solve it. If you think members of the family are shy to open up their views, you can ask each member to write down their thoughts and then share them by passing them around. Remember, the whole idea of family meeting is to communicate among the family members and do not care about whether the communication is audible or written.
Family vacation is seek out the best solution to your family problems. Imagine that the family members are cooperate to plan the vacation together. For example, father is taking part in drives n checks the car is in good condition, mother is taking part prepares the medicines for the journey, whereas brother is taking part in the location and sister is taking part in food and entertainment. This cooperation among the family members is to have a happy and delightful family vacation. In addition, it can foster the relationship between parents and their children directly. All family members work together to organize a family trip is not easy as well but they can experience the ways to organize a trip among their family members. Besides that, children can know more deeply about the place of interesting by asking their parents and can be improve their knowledge by informal education.
On the other hand, keep communicating with family members also one of the solution to overcome the family problem. Once the problem start, the communication should not stop. It is important to talk through your emotions and feelings. Actually we unable to know what our family members thinking without communicate. So, we have to talk to them in different kind of topics or just a simple conversation. For example, parents have to try to close with their children instead of busy their works. If parents just focus or concentrate to their jobs, they children will be neglected by them directly. Therefore, the children cannot feel any warm in their family and less communicate with family members. By prevent this incident happens, parents should keep communicating with their children in various topics, like studies, about their school life, their friends and so on. This kind of the topics will be let their children know that their parents are love and concern them.
Therefore, there are some of the solutions to overcome the family problems. One of the solution is family meeting. Family meeting provide a safe environment for each member to share n express their views regarding the various issues. Through out this meeting, family members can tell and know what is the problem are they facing and will try to help them to solve it. If you think members of the family are shy to open up their views, you can ask each member to write down their thoughts and then share them by passing them around. Remember, the whole idea of family meeting is to communicate among the family members and do not care about whether the communication is audible or written.
Family vacation is seek out the best solution to your family problems. Imagine that the family members are cooperate to plan the vacation together. For example, father is taking part in drives n checks the car is in good condition, mother is taking part prepares the medicines for the journey, whereas brother is taking part in the location and sister is taking part in food and entertainment. This cooperation among the family members is to have a happy and delightful family vacation. In addition, it can foster the relationship between parents and their children directly. All family members work together to organize a family trip is not easy as well but they can experience the ways to organize a trip among their family members. Besides that, children can know more deeply about the place of interesting by asking their parents and can be improve their knowledge by informal education.
On the other hand, keep communicating with family members also one of the solution to overcome the family problem. Once the problem start, the communication should not stop. It is important to talk through your emotions and feelings. Actually we unable to know what our family members thinking without communicate. So, we have to talk to them in different kind of topics or just a simple conversation. For example, parents have to try to close with their children instead of busy their works. If parents just focus or concentrate to their jobs, they children will be neglected by them directly. Therefore, the children cannot feel any warm in their family and less communicate with family members. By prevent this incident happens, parents should keep communicating with their children in various topics, like studies, about their school life, their friends and so on. This kind of the topics will be let their children know that their parents are love and concern them.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
cOncept of Family...
"WARM" a word which can describe a family. In this modern day and age,the word "family" is a very powerful thing. Families use to be networks of togetherness and love. A family including a father,mother and a child. If not,cant form a family.Love,support,friendship, and guidance are key qualities necessary to form a family bond. The feeling of warm and love can be feel in a family.Father n mother will give their love to the children,teach them as well by full of patient,protect them and the like.In addition,family members can be our "Friends" too...We can share our happiness and sadness with them,talk to them when we face difficulties so that they can express their opinion or views,travelling and so on..They are very important in our life..They always beside us no matter where we are..Everyone has the need to feel loved,but the best love there can be is the love of a family.
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Xue Nie is MY name...
"Cute"....a word which can describe me...haha.. =) My name is Wong Xue Nie, came from Negeri Sembilan,Seremban..I'm now studying at UKM,taking Communication and Public Policy course..Actually I'm a outgoing person,love to join many activities,to know more people,love to follow my aunts go anywhere,active in organizing activity,and the like...In short,others must include me in every activity....So,ADD me la....hehe...
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