Solution For Marriage Problem Between Husband And Wife By Onion

Usually that's what happen between a husband and wife in the family, During the time of crisis, their trust will be tested as well as their endurance and mutual understanding on each other. In order to solve the problem between couples, we must first find the cause of the problem. What is the source of failing relationships then? If we investigate closer at it's core, it's the mindset of the couples.

1. They should set a common goal to be achieve together, such as bringing up children, holiday to certain countries, renovate their house and so on. In order to do so, partners need to develop the capability to make connections between facts by listening to your partner's opinion without presumption and understand his/her viewpoints from their stances.

2. Speaks out your feelings freely to your partner. What we are facing in Malaysia as well as South East Asia countries is that couples tend to keep opinions or feelings in their heart. They are more conservative and tried to solve problems by themselves. These may causes misunderstanding of your partner since he/she doesn't understanding what situation you are in and may accused you of false rumors. When comes to making a major decision,the dominant side(either husband or wife) may presume their decision are acceptable by their partner, which in fact the opposite in most of the cases. Hence, do respect your partner's feelings and makes adjustments according to your partner's need as well as the situation, and of course, includes both sides decisions in the commitment of family issues. Avoid unreasonable expectations and think of the bigger picture and the consequences when you make the decision.

ThE sOLutions of the Family problem

Nowadays, by browsing through the newspaper, we can see that there are many family issues are reported. For example, abortion babies, under age pregnancy, run away from home and the like. These kind of family issues fundamentally due to the poor relationship among family members. This is because lack of communication between parents and their children although living under the same roof. This is called 'generation gap'.

Therefore, there are some of the solutions to overcome the family problems. One of the solution is family meeting. Family meeting provide a safe environment for each member to share n express their views regarding the various issues. Through out this meeting, family members can tell and know what is the problem are they facing and will try to help them to solve it. If you think members of the family are shy to open up their views, you can ask each member to write down their thoughts and then share them by passing them around. Remember, the whole idea of family meeting is to communicate among the family members and do not care about whether the communication is audible or written.

Family vacation is seek out the best solution to your family problems. Imagine that the family members are cooperate to plan the vacation together. For example, father is taking part in drives n checks the car is in good condition, mother is taking part prepares the medicines for the journey, whereas brother is taking part in the location and sister is taking part in food and entertainment. This cooperation among the family members is to have a happy and delightful family vacation. In addition, it can foster the relationship between parents and their children directly. All family members work together to organize a family trip is not easy as well but they can experience the ways to organize a trip among their family members. Besides that, children can know more deeply about the place of interesting by asking their parents and can be improve their knowledge by informal education.

On the other hand, keep communicating with family members also one of the solution to overcome the family problem. Once the problem start, the communication should not stop. It is important to talk through your emotions and feelings. Actually we unable to know what our family members thinking without communicate. So, we have to talk to them in different kind of topics or just a simple conversation. For example, parents have to try to close with their children instead of busy their works. If parents just focus or concentrate to their jobs, they children will be neglected by them directly. Therefore, the children cannot feel any warm in their family and less communicate with family members. By prevent this incident happens, parents should keep communicating with their children in various topics, like studies, about their school life, their friends and so on. This kind of the topics will be let their children know that their parents are love and concern them.

Marriage Problems~

Problems usually occur between husband and wife first then it affects the whole family. Misunderstandings, differences, disputes, etc. will lead to relationship breakup, that is separation or divorce. The problems that happened are either personal or impersonal. Misunderstanding, low self-esteem and lack of respect in marriage are the main problems.
First of all, misunderstanding persists between married couple when one or both mates feels that they had choose the wrong person and begin to regret which trigger to unhealthy body and mind condition. Misunderstanding is often related to low self-esteem. One of the spouses might fear that the other half is being disloyal, deceptive or misleading and often get jealous, malice or hatred for each other or a third person are examples of low self-esteem. The imbalance emotions sometimes mess up the relationship.
In addition, when there’s respect in a marriage, the integrity of marriage as an institution remains intact and there probably wouldn’t be any divorce. Husband and wife must understand that marriage is a commitment to life. There should not be domination in a marriage but honour the person with sincerity. Some husbands or wives often have this ‘I’m always right’ mindset. This has made the situation worse and one of them might get tired of it and that usually ends on a very unsatisfying note.
Furthermore, husband and wife should always show interest to each other and accept the weakness because everybody makes mistakes. Do not neglect each other no matter how busy they are and at least once a day to compliment each other. Communication skill is crucial to make up a healthy relationship. Spend time and be open for discussion with one another so that all issues and disputes can be settled and resolved through a dialogue, not by personal opinion.
In a nutshell, the roles of the husband and wife in a family have been forgotten. Wife is like a neck when the husband’s a head. They must be together in order to function well. As we know that husband is to assume leadership in the home but should not be dictatorial, condescending the wife means they must respect each other. On the other hand, wives are to submit to their husbands and of course the husbands should respect her opinions. For the sake of the family and the relationship, to the respect add love. It is always Love that bonds and strengthen a relationship. Remember the reason a couple decided to get married.

cOncept of Family...

"WARM" a word which can describe a family. In this modern day and age,the word "family" is a very powerful thing. Families use to be networks of togetherness and love. A family including a father,mother and a child. If not,cant form a family.Love,support,friendship, and guidance are key qualities necessary to form a family bond. The feeling of warm and love can be feel in a family.Father n mother will give their love to the children,teach them as well by full of patient,protect them and the like.In addition,family members can be our "Friends" too...We can share our happiness and sadness with them,talk to them when we face difficulties so that they can express their opinion or views,travelling and so on..They are very important in our life..They always beside us no matter where we are..Everyone has the need to feel loved,but the best love there can be is the love of a family.

I Would Like To Reassure The Topic By Onion

Ok, the topic for this blog discussion board is How Family As a Foundation Affects The Harmonious Of The Society. I guess this is the topic that we are going to discuss on. Settle? And by the way, try to post some discussions on this blog at least once a week respectively. Use 5-Wife 1-Husband principle (What, Where, Who, When, Why and How) to question the issue so that you will get a clearer idea of presenting the topic. I believe in you, dear teammates! (AND I LOVE YOU) (wink)

What Is My Words When I Talk About Family Issues

In this blog, I would like to talk about how crucial harmony within family members is when it comes to the uprising of divorce rate.

Basically family is considered as a foundation of the society where it's consisted of a father, a mother and their children. The formation of a family generally relies on encounter of 2 different individual from different family background. After some time of experiencing life together and achieve a certain degree of mutual understanding, they will either realise they are not suitable to live under same roof or continue the life journey till the end. Decision making plays an important role at this stage.

If you flip open the newspaper nowadays, it's not surprising to have notices on who-and-who no longer tied together by marriage and breath taking amount of divorce compensation claimed. The idea of marriage is crooked as there are cases where girls look for rich husband to marry with or males search for beautiful females to gain satisfaction as if owning something delicate to be display in public. We need to ask ourselves what is our original intention to get married, to seek security? To produce offsprings? To gain a higher social position? To climb into a new stage of life? The intention itself is no longer pure but instead, built on desires and or at least, urge to obtain a certain requirement.

Compared to the past, young people incline towards Western style of celebrating marriage where procedures are simple and stylistic. I am not accusing others for practicing Western marriage celebration but then our own traditional marriage procedures have their hidden meaning. Talking from the perspective of a Chinese, I would like to explain a little on the tediousness of rules and procedures in a Traditional Chinese Marriage. In the Traditional Chinese Marriage rituals, we have "6 Etiquette". To bring out the points briefly, we need to undergo a proposal, a birthdate ceremony(to predict whether they are suitable to live together or not), a bethrothal gift(as a token of appreciation to the bride's parents for raising their daughter) , a wedding gift(preparation for the wedding ceremony),and arranging of the wedding date. In the wedding ceremony, the couples will need to serve teas to their ancestors down to their elderlies by kneeling down to show their gratitude. To conclude it, it 's the troublesome of marriage that keep on reminding the couple: marriage is tedious and hence, do not repeat it. One marriage ceremony in the life will be enough.

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