PARENTS AND TEENAGERS

No man is perfect. Although we all strive for perfection, there are no such things as the perfect family. Every family is unique with its own combination of strengths, challenges, and problems. Therefore, do not surprise if some family seems overwhelmed with problems, or if there is a breakdown in relationship within family members. Family problems come in all shapes and sizes. Some are easy to manage while some are more chronic and difficult to handle. There are some examples of family issues, divorce, domestic violence, step families, and teen issues. Family nowadays has trouble with indefinite crisis. I do not discuss all of the issues of family but will emphasize the problems facing between parents and children.

Look at some examples about the expressions of teenagers as well as parents. May be you ever heard it before.
Teenage bodies and minds are screaming “I am not a baby anymore, I want to make my own decisions!” or “ I am ready to be independent.”
Parents are screaming back “ you have not learned what you need to know yet, I am your father or I am your mother, just follow and accept our decisions, no arguing!”
Also in some situation, children screamed “nothing I do is ever good enough for my parents, my parents always nag me or lecturing me about something. I really hate it!”
Why are those situations or we considered as problems happen between teenagers and parents? May be there are a lot of reasons, but the biggest one is poor communication. Family members do not know how to express the best with one another or have not learned how to listen well to what others are trying to say through their words, expressions or actions. Parents rarely give praise even if the children do the right thing. It seems as though nothing children do is ever good enough for parents, at least this is in the mind of teenagers. Children sometimes seldom appreciate the well-intentioned and painstakingly of parents. They are not realize what parents done for them is for their own good, however they easily said parents love to nag and restrict their life. That is why sometimes, family would overwhelmed with problems and end up with the breakdown in relationship within family members.

Another problem is media and technology where children or teenager can make their secret life. Also with technology, the internet becomes their new guide. By the way, internet reduces communicating or face to face between parents and teenagers. It seems internet become children new world life. So, many teenagers do not close from their family, compared to parents, children are more willing to tell feelings and minds to a friend or even to those they are not really know through internet. May be children remember parents only at the time of needing money. This situation is really bad since family should be the source of love and support. Family members should have close bond within one another.

In fact, every family has trouble coping with life’s inevitable crises. Some are simple problem whereas some are very hard issues to handle. No matter how, there are certain measures that we can take for recovery.