Nowadays, by browsing through the newspaper, we can see that there are many family issues are reported. For example, abortion babies, under age pregnancy, run away from home and the like. These kind of family issues fundamentally due to the poor relationship among family members. This is because lack of communication between parents and their children although living under the same roof. This is called 'generation gap'.
Therefore, there are some of the solutions to overcome the family problems. One of the solution is family meeting. Family meeting provide a safe environment for each member to share n express their views regarding the various issues. Through out this meeting, family members can tell and know what is the problem are they facing and will try to help them to solve it. If you think members of the family are shy to open up their views, you can ask each member to write down their thoughts and then share them by passing them around. Remember, the whole idea of family meeting is to communicate among the family members and do not care about whether the communication is audible or written.
Family vacation is seek out the best solution to your family problems. Imagine that the family members are cooperate to plan the vacation together. For example, father is taking part in drives n checks the car is in good condition, mother is taking part prepares the medicines for the journey, whereas brother is taking part in the location and sister is taking part in food and entertainment. This cooperation among the family members is to have a happy and delightful family vacation. In addition, it can foster the relationship between parents and their children directly. All family members work together to organize a family trip is not easy as well but they can experience the ways to organize a trip among their family members. Besides that, children can know more deeply about the place of interesting by asking their parents and can be improve their knowledge by informal education.
On the other hand, keep communicating with family members also one of the solution to overcome the family problem. Once the problem start, the communication should not stop. It is important to talk through your emotions and feelings. Actually we unable to know what our family members thinking without communicate. So, we have to talk to them in different kind of topics or just a simple conversation. For example, parents have to try to close with their children instead of busy their works. If parents just focus or concentrate to their jobs, they children will be neglected by them directly. Therefore, the children cannot feel any warm in their family and less communicate with family members. By prevent this incident happens, parents should keep communicating with their children in various topics, like studies, about their school life, their friends and so on. This kind of the topics will be let their children know that their parents are love and concern them.
Monday, October 4, 2010
Sunday, October 3, 2010
PARENTS AND TEENAGERS
No man is perfect. Although we all strive for perfection, there are no such things as the perfect family. Every family is unique with its own combination of strengths, challenges, and problems. Therefore, do not surprise if some family seems overwhelmed with problems, or if there is a breakdown in relationship within family members. Family problems come in all shapes and sizes. Some are easy to manage while some are more chronic and difficult to handle. There are some examples of family issues, divorce, domestic violence, step families, and teen issues. Family nowadays has trouble with indefinite crisis. I do not discuss all of the issues of family but will emphasize the problems facing between parents and children.
Look at some examples about the expressions of teenagers as well as parents. May be you ever heard it before.
Teenage bodies and minds are screaming “I am not a baby anymore, I want to make my own decisions!” or “ I am ready to be independent.”
Parents are screaming back “ you have not learned what you need to know yet, I am your father or I am your mother, just follow and accept our decisions, no arguing!”
Also in some situation, children screamed “nothing I do is ever good enough for my parents, my parents always nag me or lecturing me about something. I really hate it!”
Why are those situations or we considered as problems happen between teenagers and parents? May be there are a lot of reasons, but the biggest one is poor communication. Family members do not know how to express the best with one another or have not learned how to listen well to what others are trying to say through their words, expressions or actions. Parents rarely give praise even if the children do the right thing. It seems as though nothing children do is ever good enough for parents, at least this is in the mind of teenagers. Children sometimes seldom appreciate the well-intentioned and painstakingly of parents. They are not realize what parents done for them is for their own good, however they easily said parents love to nag and restrict their life. That is why sometimes, family would overwhelmed with problems and end up with the breakdown in relationship within family members.
Another problem is media and technology where children or teenager can make their secret life. Also with technology, the internet becomes their new guide. By the way, internet reduces communicating or face to face between parents and teenagers. It seems internet become children new world life. So, many teenagers do not close from their family, compared to parents, children are more willing to tell feelings and minds to a friend or even to those they are not really know through internet. May be children remember parents only at the time of needing money. This situation is really bad since family should be the source of love and support. Family members should have close bond within one another.
In fact, every family has trouble coping with life’s inevitable crises. Some are simple problem whereas some are very hard issues to handle. No matter how, there are certain measures that we can take for recovery.
Look at some examples about the expressions of teenagers as well as parents. May be you ever heard it before.
Teenage bodies and minds are screaming “I am not a baby anymore, I want to make my own decisions!” or “ I am ready to be independent.”
Parents are screaming back “ you have not learned what you need to know yet, I am your father or I am your mother, just follow and accept our decisions, no arguing!”
Also in some situation, children screamed “nothing I do is ever good enough for my parents, my parents always nag me or lecturing me about something. I really hate it!”
Why are those situations or we considered as problems happen between teenagers and parents? May be there are a lot of reasons, but the biggest one is poor communication. Family members do not know how to express the best with one another or have not learned how to listen well to what others are trying to say through their words, expressions or actions. Parents rarely give praise even if the children do the right thing. It seems as though nothing children do is ever good enough for parents, at least this is in the mind of teenagers. Children sometimes seldom appreciate the well-intentioned and painstakingly of parents. They are not realize what parents done for them is for their own good, however they easily said parents love to nag and restrict their life. That is why sometimes, family would overwhelmed with problems and end up with the breakdown in relationship within family members.
Another problem is media and technology where children or teenager can make their secret life. Also with technology, the internet becomes their new guide. By the way, internet reduces communicating or face to face between parents and teenagers. It seems internet become children new world life. So, many teenagers do not close from their family, compared to parents, children are more willing to tell feelings and minds to a friend or even to those they are not really know through internet. May be children remember parents only at the time of needing money. This situation is really bad since family should be the source of love and support. Family members should have close bond within one another.
In fact, every family has trouble coping with life’s inevitable crises. Some are simple problem whereas some are very hard issues to handle. No matter how, there are certain measures that we can take for recovery.
Marriage Problems~
Problems usually occur between husband and wife first then it affects the whole family. Misunderstandings, differences, disputes, etc. will lead to relationship breakup, that is separation or divorce. The problems that happened are either personal or impersonal. Misunderstanding, low self-esteem and lack of respect in marriage are the main problems.
First of all, misunderstanding persists between married couple when one or both mates feels that they had choose the wrong person and begin to regret which trigger to unhealthy body and mind condition. Misunderstanding is often related to low self-esteem. One of the spouses might fear that the other half is being disloyal, deceptive or misleading and often get jealous, malice or hatred for each other or a third person are examples of low self-esteem. The imbalance emotions sometimes mess up the relationship.
In addition, when there’s respect in a marriage, the integrity of marriage as an institution remains intact and there probably wouldn’t be any divorce. Husband and wife must understand that marriage is a commitment to life. There should not be domination in a marriage but honour the person with sincerity. Some husbands or wives often have this ‘I’m always right’ mindset. This has made the situation worse and one of them might get tired of it and that usually ends on a very unsatisfying note.
Furthermore, husband and wife should always show interest to each other and accept the weakness because everybody makes mistakes. Do not neglect each other no matter how busy they are and at least once a day to compliment each other. Communication skill is crucial to make up a healthy relationship. Spend time and be open for discussion with one another so that all issues and disputes can be settled and resolved through a dialogue, not by personal opinion.
In a nutshell, the roles of the husband and wife in a family have been forgotten. Wife is like a neck when the husband’s a head. They must be together in order to function well. As we know that husband is to assume leadership in the home but should not be dictatorial, condescending the wife means they must respect each other. On the other hand, wives are to submit to their husbands and of course the husbands should respect her opinions. For the sake of the family and the relationship, to the respect add love. It is always Love that bonds and strengthen a relationship. Remember the reason a couple decided to get married.
First of all, misunderstanding persists between married couple when one or both mates feels that they had choose the wrong person and begin to regret which trigger to unhealthy body and mind condition. Misunderstanding is often related to low self-esteem. One of the spouses might fear that the other half is being disloyal, deceptive or misleading and often get jealous, malice or hatred for each other or a third person are examples of low self-esteem. The imbalance emotions sometimes mess up the relationship.
In addition, when there’s respect in a marriage, the integrity of marriage as an institution remains intact and there probably wouldn’t be any divorce. Husband and wife must understand that marriage is a commitment to life. There should not be domination in a marriage but honour the person with sincerity. Some husbands or wives often have this ‘I’m always right’ mindset. This has made the situation worse and one of them might get tired of it and that usually ends on a very unsatisfying note.
Furthermore, husband and wife should always show interest to each other and accept the weakness because everybody makes mistakes. Do not neglect each other no matter how busy they are and at least once a day to compliment each other. Communication skill is crucial to make up a healthy relationship. Spend time and be open for discussion with one another so that all issues and disputes can be settled and resolved through a dialogue, not by personal opinion.
In a nutshell, the roles of the husband and wife in a family have been forgotten. Wife is like a neck when the husband’s a head. They must be together in order to function well. As we know that husband is to assume leadership in the home but should not be dictatorial, condescending the wife means they must respect each other. On the other hand, wives are to submit to their husbands and of course the husbands should respect her opinions. For the sake of the family and the relationship, to the respect add love. It is always Love that bonds and strengthen a relationship. Remember the reason a couple decided to get married.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
cOncept of Family...
"WARM" a word which can describe a family. In this modern day and age,the word "family" is a very powerful thing. Families use to be networks of togetherness and love. A family including a father,mother and a child. If not,cant form a family.Love,support,friendship, and guidance are key qualities necessary to form a family bond. The feeling of warm and love can be feel in a family.Father n mother will give their love to the children,teach them as well by full of patient,protect them and the like.In addition,family members can be our "Friends" too...We can share our happiness and sadness with them,talk to them when we face difficulties so that they can express their opinion or views,travelling and so on..They are very important in our life..They always beside us no matter where we are..Everyone has the need to feel loved,but the best love there can be is the love of a family.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Let's get STARTED on topic!
Speak of family, the first thing that appears in my head is LOVE. As we know that love binds a family and bound them together. The family is where children and vulnerable family members should be able to find support and safety. However , what will become to a family if there’s no love and appreciation? This is the main reason we choose FAMILY issue as our topic.
Sunday, August 8, 2010
FAMILY
I would like to talk a little about "FAMILY" here! ^^
What is the meaning of the word “FAMILY”? Well, families are much more than groups of people who share the same genes or the same address. There are many different kinds of families. Some have two parents, while others have a single parent. Some children live in adoptive families, foster famillies, or in stepfamilies.
Some will define family as “Father And Mother I Love You”. Perhaps, family should be a source of support and encouragement. But, there is no perfect family. Each family has its own strengths and weaknesses,challenges and problems. We can said that conflicts are a part of family life.
However, the conflicts among family should be settle or resolve. In case of the conflicts keep on exist, it may be deeply affect the children. Since family should be a source of support and encouragement, so I strongly emphasize that, listening to each other and working to resolve conflicts are important in strengthening the family.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
I Would Like To Reassure The Topic By Onion
Ok, the topic for this blog discussion board is How Family As a Foundation Affects The Harmonious Of The Society. I guess this is the topic that we are going to discuss on. Settle? And by the way, try to post some discussions on this blog at least once a week respectively. Use 5-Wife 1-Husband principle (What, Where, Who, When, Why and How) to question the issue so that you will get a clearer idea of presenting the topic. I believe in you, dear teammates! (AND I LOVE YOU) (wink)
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